5 Tips to Successfully Build Your Character

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If most people judge a book by its cover what do people see when they encounter you? Do they see someone who’s approachable or someone who’s aloof? Are you engaged in conversation or in another world with a blank stare?

The beauty of your character is truly the key to your success so make sure you stand out in a crowd in a positive way.

It won’t always be easy…trust me, I know from experience. I’m an introvert in my personal life and I’m an extrovert in my professional life. Fortunately, I have learned how to balance the two to make it work in my favor.

Here are 5 tips I’ve learned to master to help get you on track.

1. Dress for Success: Dress for the job you want not the job you have. When you look the part people see you differently so dress like you’re ready for advancement.

2. Talk the Talk: Speak with confidence and authority. Don’t be shy and don’t be afraid. The only thing they can tell you is no. And no is not the end of the world. It only means not right now.

3. Be Social: Engage in conversation and participate. You don’t have to be the life of the party but be a part of it.

4. Stop, Look and Listen: Stop looking at your phone because you can come across as being uninterested or rude. Look the person in the eyes when they’re speaking; it shows interest. And Listen to what is being said because you just might learn something.

5. Work the Room: Show off your skills with your ability to network and make friends. This can make you look more friendly and approachable.

Life is like a sport. Sometimes you only get one shot to make the best first impression. Don’t fumble, strike out, foul out or get ejected before the game starts. Make sure the beauty of your character gives you the winning point! You can do it! I believe in you! Have an awesome week! MUAH

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Live Your Best Life Authentically

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Are you living your best life? Are you doing the things that matter the most to you? Do you struggle with fulfilling your needs because you put others first?

Sometimes it’s hard to put yourself first. I get that. Sometimes you have to put your family first. But that doesn’t mean you can’t do the things that matter to you. That doesn’t mean you can’t authentically live your best life.

You have to make time for you! You only have one life and you have to make it count. To be at your best for your family, you have to be at your best for you! You can’t give 100% if you only have 60% to give; it doesn’t add up.

Here are a few tips to help get you on the road to authentically living your best life!

1. Ask yourself what makes you happy and make time to do it! A lot of times you know what makes you happy but you don’t make the time.

If you’re not happy then the people around you are not happy or they’re suffering silently because of your unhappiness.

2. Take a vacation or staycation alone. Release your thoughts. Take a journal with you and write down your feelings. Be honest with yourself and analyze how you feel. Set some goals or boundaries of you need to.

3. Make a bucket list, start doing some of those things and cross them off the list.

4. Have some alone time, even if it’s for 30 minutes a day. Get up early and take some time for you. It’s okay to be a little selfish for 30 minutes. The world is not going to end. And if it does, at least you’re doing something for you. LOL

5. Communicate! Talk to someone. Don’t suffer and hold in your feelings. You deserve to be happy; you deserve the best! If you don’t talk, they don’t know.

6. Release some tension and exercise. Take a walk, run, swim or go workout. Find something that will help you to let go of any worry or unwanted energy.

7. Surround yourself with positive people. Positive people bring positive vibes. Positive vibes bring happiness! And happy is what you want to be.

Remember…you only have one life. Live your best life as authentically as you can. Happiness is a choice, you are not an option and you deserve the best! Have a wonderful week! MUAH

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Happy International Women’s Day – A Letter to My Tribe

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Beauty is showing love, honor & respect for your fellow sisters & friends! #ImBeautyInspired

Everyone is not lucky enough to have a group of women in their lives who love, honor and respect them. Everyone is not lucky enough to have an inner circle like mine.

I don’t know about your circle of girlfriends but mine are amazing! They love me no matter what, they support my dreams and they respect my ideas. We talk, we laugh, we cry and sometimes we disagree but I wouldn’t have it any other way.

My circle of girlfriends’ rock! They are strong, fierce and motivated. They protect me and I protect them. Some of them are women from my childhood and others are women I’ve embraced as sisters over the past couple of years. Either way, they personify #BlackGirlMagic.

These women have made an impact in my life in so many ways that words can’t explain how grateful I truly am. I wrote this post to say thank you. There is no need to name names, as you know who you are. Besides…I don’t want to forget anyone.

Thank you for being my friend. Thank you for being the sisters I always wanted but never had. Thank you listening to me and celebrating my success. Thank you allowing me to cry on your shoulder and saying it’s going to be okay. Thank you for being a friend through the good, bad and ugly times. Thank you for just being you and Happy International Women’s Day! #ImBeautyInspired

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The Laws of Attraction

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Have you ever said or thought something about yourself and it actually happened? Did write down a dream or put something on a vision board and it came true because you believed it would? Do you consider yourself a positive Polly or a Negative Nelly? Is the glass half full or half empty?

Did you know that what you put into the universe could come to true? Be careful with your actions and words because what you say and do can become your fate. Make sure your actions and words are positive to attract positivity!

Sometimes it’s hard to be positive in negative situations. Sometimes you’re angry and you don’t care. The law of attraction is like a boomerang. So, the next time you’re having a hard time, try one of the following tips.

  1. Have a positive mind, body and spirit so you can attract like-minded people! Amazing things can happen when you surround yourself with people who are positive. Ideas start to flow and you help each other grow.
  1. Be open! Become more of a loving person so you can receive love. If you’re not open to love you can’t receive it. Let go of any negative feelings, past hurts or bad relationships and move forward. Don’t allow the past to dictate your future!
  1. Allow your inner beauty to shine and attract new and amazing opportunities! Your inner beauty is your attitude and your attitude is what attracts people to you. What does your inner beauty say about you? Is it shinning bright like a diamond or does it need to be polished?
  1. Purge all negativity from your life. Take a look at your friends and family if they don’t bring you peace and joy; learn to love them from a distance. Sometimes we have to let go to move forward. Ask yourself what or who’s holing you back?
  1. Dress for success! Like the old saying goes, “Dress for the job you want not the job you have!” This is so true. When you present yourself higher people see you on a higher level. Your outer appearance can sometimes draw people to you. Even if you work in a casual environment you can still dress in your best casual attire.

Remember if you look sloppy or tired, some people will make an assumption by what they see. Don’t forget that actions speak louder than words. If you look like a hot mess people may perceive you as such. And I have learned that when I dress for success, I feel like success.

What about you? How ensure your actions have positive effects from the laws of attraction? What tips do you have to add to the list? Share your thoughts because I want to know. Have a wonderful week! MUAH

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How To Say No

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Why do we feel bad or guilty when we tell someone no? Why do we feel the need to offer an explanation when we say no? Why do we get nervous or sad when the answer is no?

No is such a powerful word but it’s very hard for most people to use or understand. I am here to tell you that it’s okay to say no and mean it with no explanation needed. No need to feel scared or worried. No need to feel shy when you say it. No is a powerful word and you should use it sometime!

Remember the following the next time you have to use the word no.

  1. No is a complete sentence. I learned this golden nugget from my aunt in my head… Aunt Oprah. And when you think about this statement you have to see the truth in it. No?
  1. Don’t hold back. Say it like you mean it! My other aunt in my head dropped this little gem. Thanks Aunt Wendy Williams. When you say it like you mean it, you empower yourself in so many ways.
  1. Don’t say sorry at the end of a no because you’re really not. And it negates the no. Just say no. Try it; I’m sure you’ll be surprised with the results.
  1. Practice makes perfect. If you practice it enough the feeling of guilt starts to lessen. You’ll be a pro in no time. Let’s practice…NO, No, no. Was that hard? No!
  1. There is beauty in the word no even if it’s the answer that you don’t want to hear. Sometimes no means not yet and not yet means it’s just not your time.

Remember: You don’t owe anyone anything. You’re not obligated to always say yes. You do have a choice. Find your voice and say no. When you do, you’ll feel a sense of calm and power all the same time.

And when you receive the word no as an answer don’t get discouraged because that no may be the start of something greater to come. There is beauty in the word no! Do you see it? Have a wonderful week! MUAH

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Love, Honor & Self-respect

Love, Honor and Self-respect

Have you ever made a promise to yourself but you didn’t follow through? Have you ever started a new hobby and gave up because you lost interest? It’s easy to let go of things that you’re not committed to.

Commitment means you put forth dedication and hard work without giving up. Sure, you may get discouraged along the way but you stay on course and persevere through the bad times. The question is…are you ready to commit to you?

Making a commitment to yourself is not always easy. Here are a few tips to follow the next time you are ready to make a promise to yourself.

1. Be Honest: ask yourself if this is something you are willing to see through from beginning to end even if obstacles get in your way. If the answer is no, consider taking on the task when you are ready and focused.

2. Be Realistic: Set realistic goals that you can achieve. Start slow and increase your goals as you achieve them. If you set the bar too high in the beginning, you may give up before you reach the end.

3. Write it Down: You become more committed when you write down your dreams, visions or goals.

4. Be Accountable: Sometimes it’s hard to hold yourself accountable. If you know this may be a problem, find someone who will hold you accountable for your actions.

5. Re-evaluate: Do a midpoint checkup to see if you are on track. If you are at a plateau revise your plan.

6. Make a Pledge: Commit to yourself by writing out an actual pledge to make it happen. Be sure to sign it and date it. Look at the pledge daily as a reminder of your commitment. This will help you stay on track.

7. Celebrate Your Wins: No matter how big or small of a win…celebrate. The celebration gives you something to look forward to when you make an accomplishment.

Making a commitment to yourself is easy. Staying on track and following through is the hard part. When you follow through with your commitment, you love, honor and respect who you are. Take the pledge to embrace your beauty today! Have a wonderful week! MUAH

 

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Be The Center Of Your Own Universe

Becoming the center of your own universe

Do you put other people’s issues before your own needs? Dose your life need balance and stability?

If you answered yes to any of these questions please understand that you are not alone. At some point in life we all go through this feeling of frustration. We are all trying to find the right formula for life. Everyone searches but some never find it because they give up.

Don’t be that person who never tried to find balance in themselves and the universe. Don’t be a quitter! If your wellbeing is important to you, keep pushing and don’t give up. We only have one life so make it count.

Here are some things you can do when don’t feel balanced.

1. Take a Break: Go on a vacation or a weekend getaway. Take some time for you! If you can’t be 100% for yourself, how can you effectively give 100% to others?

Your break can be a staycation. Just take some time to get away so you can relax, relate and release!

2. Exercise: Stop carrying the weight of the world on your back. Take a boxing class or do some yoga. Sometimes you just need punch something or center yourself to avoid taking your frustrations out on others. Release those irritations in a productive and healthy way.

3. Take a Personal Day: In the past I used to set aside a day just for me. I called it, “Renee Day”. Renee Day was filled with things that I liked to do. I would pamper myself with an at home spa day. I would read a book, listen to my favorite music and cook my favorite meal or take myself out. It really didn’t matter what I did that day just as long as I was doing something for me.

I encourage everyone to invest in your own day or at least a few hours. If you don’t invest in you…then who will?

4. Find a Hobby: Sometimes we just need a distraction from life. A hobby can give you something different to do while doing something you enjoy.

5. Purge: Let go of all negative things that hold you back; people, places and things. Don’t look back after you release that negative energy. People come into your life for a reason or a season. Figure out what purpose they serve in your life or what purpose you serve in theirs. If that purpose does not serve anyone well then let go and keep it moving.

6. Feed Your Soul: Go to church, pray or meditate. Energize your mind, spirit and soul. Count all your blessings and be grateful.

7. Be Honest: The truth shall set you free. Don’t be afraid to be honest with yourself and others. Honesty is always the best policy. Just be sure to do it in a tactful manner.

Always remember there’s no rulebook to life. There’s not a one size fits all for every situation. And you can’t be everything to everybody without being everything to yourself first! Be the center of your universe while being centered with the universe. Have a wonderful week! MUAH

 

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The Journey of Self-Discovery

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The journey of self-discovery is an awesome and beautiful experience. You get to spend time with yourself and learn about what makes you, you, special and unique! During your journey, you become more aware of who you are, what you like and how to love yourself with flaws and all.

Self-discovery a beautiful thing. It makes your inner beauty stronger and allows your outer beauty to shine brighter! Take some time to improve, empower and explore who you are by starting some of the following tips.

1. Take yourself on a date. If you can’t enjoy your own company, how can you expect others to enjoy you?

2. During your alone time, discover something new about you. Try something different. You will never know if you do or don’t like something unless you try it.

3. Take time to unplug! We live in a world where we’re attached to technology. Take some time out for you. Read a book, meditate or pamper yourself. This is your chance to relax, relate and release!

4. Start a journal. Write down your dreams and aspirations to speak them into existence. Or release the negative things inside of you that have been holding you back.

5. Take care of and live for you. When you live for others, you will never live up to their standards. Live for you and be happy. Don’t allow anyone to control who you are and your happiness!

6. Live, laugh, learn and love! Live your life to the fullest everyday because today could be your last. Laugh at yourself. Don’t take life so seriously that you miss out on the good times. Learn something new everyday to expand your knowledge. And love yourself a little more everyday because you’re amazing and you deserve it!

To ensure that you start your journey, make a promise to yourself and take the pledge below.

Today, I will take the challenge and start the journey of self-discovery. I will learn about myself, live for me, laugh through the tough times and love me for who I am and where I am. I will improve, empower and explore the beauty of me! 

Remember: If you don’t start what you finish, how will you ever get anything accomplished? And that includes loving and taking care of self! Start your journey today; no more excuses! Have a wonderful week! MUAH

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Finding Hope

Find Hope

There’s so many times where I have found myself in hopeless situations. There are so many times that I wanted to just say forget it and walk away. I just wanted to quit and never look back.

As I have grown older and maybe a little wiser, I have come to realize that every situation is not hopeless and all is not lost. In some of those situations, I was the problem. Things didn’t go as I planned or the way I wanted and in my mind, that made the situation hopeless.

Now if I find myself in my feelings feeling some type of way, I step back and check myself. I ask myself some of the following questions…

1. What’s the situation and what’s the outcome? Meaning…is the situation and or outcome bigger than me? If it is (and usually it is) I have to put on my big girl panties, get out of my feelings and move forward. Every outcome is not always about me.

2. Am I being a Negative Nelly? Do I have a poor attitude because I’m afraid of changing the norm? Sometimes I have to make myself step outside of my comfort zone and get a little uncomfortable. This is where I push myself harder and I usually learn a valuable lesson in life. This is what makes me stronger.

3. Am I not considering all the options? Usually, there’s more than one way to solve a problem. The question is…am I looking at all options or just one? Oprah Winfrey, Bill Gates, Mark Zuckerberg and President Obama didn’t get to where they are because of closed minds. They consider every option before they make decisions. It may not always be the right decision but they make one and they didn’t give up.

4. Am I just being lazy because I don’t want to do it or I overcommitted? Sometimes the answer is yes and yes. I am being lazy and I did overcommit. Now what? This is where I have to just get over myself and suck it up and speak life into me. Lazy is not who I am and I will make this happen. And if I overcommitted…I rearrange my schedule and make it work. It’s my fault so I fix it.

My mom always says, “The truth hurts….doesn’t it?” Sometimes a situation is not always hopeless. Sometimes we just have to face the facts and look at the truth.

Always remember: The more you know; the more you learn! Make sure you learn something in every situation! Have a wonderful week! MUAH

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Be Your Own Competition

Be Your Own Competition

A couple years ago I competed in a 5K. I didn’t do it to win 1st place. I did it for me. I wanted to show myself that I could do it and I did.

Competition is a normal thing. We compete in sports, at work and in school. But the competition becomes unhealthy when we compete against each other because of jealousy.

Instead of trying to beat the next person at something just because you dislike them, try to compete against yourself. Think about how much more you could achieve if you removed your own limitations.

Society has us so worried about the next person getting ahead that we unknowingly put limits on our own capabilities. Stop worrying about who’s going to get ahead of you and start finding ways to win against you. Think about how much more productive you can be. And think about how much more you could accomplish and win!

And if you’re thinking, if I compete against myself, what’s the reward, what’s in it for me? Here’s how you win at competing against yourself.

1. You win for you, you build your confidence and self-esteem! You believe in the unbelievable; the things you were afraid to do before now seem insignificant.

2. You get a better understanding of your value and worth! Now you can ask for more money on a contract, a salary increase, a better position or more playing time on a sports team.

3. You work smarter and not harder because you’re challenging yourself. Now you think outside of the box with different ways to beat you!

4. You become more efficient and effective with new ideas and skill sets. You find ways to do things bigger, better, stronger and faster.

5. You change for the better. You promote yourself higher and you stand out in a crowd. People notice you more and now they come to you for advice, mentorship, or to work with you.

Competing against yourself is the best gift you can give you. Competing against others will only get you as far as they can go. Push yourself, take off the limitations and go!

Remember… In business and in sports, you’re only as good as your last win. So let’s get out there and win! Have a wonderful week! MUAH

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