Rules of the No Judgement Zone

#ImBeautyInspired QuoteHave you ever been smitten by someone’s outer beauty? By the clothes they wear? By the designer shoes or handbags? Or their smile? Have you ever judged someone by what you see and not who they are?

Have you ever been mean to someone because they look messy or dirty? Have you passed them by? Did you refuse to speak to them or acknowledge them because of how looked?

I think we’re all guilty of this. It’s easy to think someone is a certain kind of way just because they look good. Or someone is certain kind of way because they look bad. Remember that looks can be deceiving. What you see on the outside is not what you always get in the inside?

The visual of a person’s outer beauty can be alluring but the persona of the of their inner beauty could be awful. Or, the style of their outer beauty can be in a disarray but their disposition could be charming.

Never judge a book by its cover because the story may captivate your heart and your mind. Be nice to everyone regardless of what you see because they may be a diamond in the rough that needs a little polish.

Here are 4 tips to prevent judging someone by what you see.

  1. Smile and say hello
  2. Start a small conversation
  3. Offer to help someone regardless of looks
  4. Find a way to give them a compliment

Have a wonderful week! MUAH

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Beauty is Love!

This poem is dedicated to anyone who has witnessed, been victimized and/or survived Domestic Violence!

Love to the Limit

Here is an excerpt from Chapter 1: The Beauty of Strength!

Beauty is being naturally you; baring it all without filters!

Today, I am being naturally me and baring it all without filters! I am sharing a side of me that I don’t share that often because I hope to bring awareness to my readers and I believe that beauty starts from the inside out.

As a child, I watched my father abuse my mother, as a teen I was abused physically by a high school boyfriend and verbally as an adult. Today, I realize that I am beautiful and love is not abusive!

I wrote a poem from the heart in the late 90’s as a dedication to my younger self and any woman who has experienced domestic violence.

This is not just a poem from what I have seen, heard or experienced, it is a poem for anyone who has been affected by domestic violence or someone who is in denial. I pray and hope that this helps someone to seek shelter and help. 

Domestic Violence is a disease. Please understand that love does not hurt. Love is not abusive – verbally, mentally, physically or emotionally. Love is patient and kind. Love is happiness and joy. Love is you!

If you or someone you know suffers from Domestic Violence, please call the hotline 1.800.799.7233 or call the police. Be strong, be a conqueror, believe in you and be free! MUAH

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Strength, Courage & Wisdom

#ImBeautyInspired to BelieveI had the pleasure of being a guest on the Johnnie O Gospel Show earlier this week to discuss Domestic Violence.

Here’s the link to the interview.

I hope and pray that my story empowers anyone who’s in a Domestic Violence situation to leave and seek help. Please know that you are never alone and God is always there by your side. Domestic Violence is a disease and if you’re a victim or an abuser, please seek help! Call the hotline 1.800.799.7233 or call the police.

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Believe in Your Beauty!

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One of the most beautiful things that you can show someone is your true self. A lot of times we tend to reveal a fraction of who we really are. We’re afraid that people may not like who they meet. So we only show them a side of us; a representative. The representative is the perfectionist who only shows the good side.

Let your guard down, remove the brick wall and be open to show others the real you with all your imperfections. If they don’t accept you; have the courage to walk away. You are amazing just the way you are and if they can’t accept that…then it’s their loss. Choose you, love you and believe in your inner beauty! Have a wonderful week! MUAH

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Beauty is Strength!

Beauty is StrengthDomestic Violence is a subject we tend to shun away from. Today, I am sharing some statistics from the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence. I hope to bring awareness through my platform as I am a survivor and I want to help others survive too!

Did you know…

  • Every 9 seconds in the US, a woman assaulted or beaten?
  • 1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men have been victims of some form of physical violence by an intimate partner within their lifetime.
  • 1 in 7 women ad 1 in 18 men have been stalked by an intimate partner within their lifetime
  • Women between the ages of 18 – 24 are most commonly abused by an intimate partner.

Domestic Violence is a disease. Please understand that love does not hurt. Love is not abusive – verbally, mentally, physically or emotionally. Love is patient and kind. Love is happiness and joy. Love is you!

If you or someone you know suffers from Domestic Violence, please call the hotline 1.800.799.7233 or call the police. Be strong, be a conqueror, believe in you and be free! MUAH

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I’m a Survivor!

#ImBeautyInspired to Live Free! I'm a Survivor! I was a witness, I was a victim and now I’m a survivor of domestic violence! Once upon a time I suffered through abuse because I didn’t believe in me or understand love. I allowed others to dictate my thoughts and sometimes my actions. I was afraid to speak up and I was afraid to stand up for me, love me and live free.

Today, I’m not a victim; I’m a survivor and a conqueror. I stand strong in who I am and I believe in me! I found the strength, courage and wisdom to not allow anyone to treat me less than what I’m worth. I accept who I am and I love who I’ve become. I chose to live free; free of any type of abuse, dysfunction or pain. I am free of domestic violence; I am free to be me!

Domestic Violence is a disease. Please understand that love does not hurt. Love is not abusive – verbally, mentally, physically or emotionally. Love is patient and kind. Love is happiness and joy. Love is you!

If you or someone you know suffers from Domestic Violence, please call the hotline 1.800.799.7233 or call the police. Be strong, be a conqueror, believe in you and be free! MUAH

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What is #ImBeautyInspired?

What is #ImBeautyInspired?

“#ImBeautyInspired A Keepsake Journal of Original Beauty Quotes & Affirmations!” is a book that empowers women and young girls to embrace their inner beauty and apply more self-love.

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It’s not just any book. It’s an interactive book with quotes, affirmations and a call to action for the reader to journal their thoughts. The book contains seven quotes with seven chapters; because seven is the number of completion. After reading the book, the reader will have a better appreciation for inner beauty and a greater understanding of self-love.

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#ImBeautyInspired is the start of a movement to inspire change with the world’s view on beauty. And I’m ready to make a difference one quote and affirmation at a time!

Join the movement and purchase a book at The Beauty Scholar Store. Or book me for a workshop or speaking engagement: info@beautyschoolscarlet.com

 

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What Is Beauty?

What is beauty? Beauty is acknowledging those who inspire you to do your best, be your best and become your best you!

Today is the last day of Women’s History Month and I want to tell you about a woman whom I have admired for many years, Ms. Tyra Banks. She is my idol, my shero, my mentor and sister in my head. She embodies beauty from the inside out; she’s ambitious, she talented and business savvy. This woman is amazing and I want to say thank you for being such a great influence in my life!

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My Tyra beauty crush started in her early days as a model. Growing up, there were not a lot of women that looked like me in magazines, on the runway and on TV. But Tyra changed the game. She appeared on the cover of Sports Illustrated not once but twice. She was the first African American Woman on the cover of GQ. And she werked the coveted wings as one of the original angels for Victoria’s Secret. She became one of the top earning models in the early 2000’s and that was something super amazing not just as a woman but as a woman of color! Yep, she did that ☺

As I watched her career blossom in awe, Tyra continued to push herself. She developed a production company named “Bankable Productions”. And she starred in movies, TV shows, hosted a talk show, developed and produced her very own show, America’s Next Top Model. This woman is not just a brand; she is a mogul on the move who continues to grow. 2011 was a busy year for Ms. Banks. She she wrote the New York Times Bestselling novel, “Modelland”. The book was inspired by her personal experiences as a model. And she enrolled in a prestigious program at Harvard Business School to gear up and expand her brand into the world of cosmetics. Upon the completion of the program, she launched her cosmetics brand Tyra Beauty.

This woman continues to amaze me. But I think her best accomplishment is her leadership camp, the TZONE Foundation for young women and girls. The foundation helps young women and girls to be ambitious and discover new possibilities in life with fierce determination. Go Tyra!

Tyra Banks is a role model with positive influence in women’s lives. She is a woman who continues to make a difference in beauty, business and philanthropy. She is my idol, my shero, my mentor and my sister in my head. #ImBeautyInspired by her tenacity, passion and love to excel in life and be the example…my example. Thank you for inspiring me to do better, be better and be the best in everything I do.

 

 

 

Sources: Wikipedia, tyra.com

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#ImBeautyInspired to Love Me and Live Free; #WomensLives Matter

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#ImBeautyInspired to be a part of the #WomensLives initiative, a media partnership between Public Radio International (PRI) and SheKnows Media, BlogHer’s parent company which, seeks to change the conversation in news media because #WomensLives matter.

I will be sharing stories and writing post about something that is near and dear to my heart, women’s issues. It is my hope to bring more awareness and support for important issues such as equal pay for women, mental illness and domestic violence.

Unfortunately, these are issues that society tends to shun away from but through this initiative they will have a voice and be part of important conversations.

The topic for today is domestic violence. I’m not sure if you knew this or not but the domestic violence Super Bowl PSA was a real 911 call. #WomensLives matter; find out what it was like for one woman as she shares her story. http://c.bher.co/81

My life matters and #ImBeautyInspired to love me, live free and share my story below.

I decided to share an excerpt from my recently published book, “#ImBeautyInspired A Keepsake Journal of Original Beauty Quotes & Affirmations!” because I was a witness of domestic violence, I was a victim of domestic violence and now I am a survivor of domestic violence. For most women, domestic violence usually starts at a young age with self-esteem issues and I wrote my book because I want to empower young women and girls to embrace their inner beauty. I want them to understand that beauty is not in the eye of the beholder; beauty is in the mind of the beholder! And they will gain an understanding of this and more through the interactive journal.

Here is an excerpt from Chapter 1: The Beauty of Strength!

Beauty is being naturally you; baring it all without filters!

Today, I am being naturally me and baring it all without filters! I am sharing a side of me that I have rarely share publicly because I hope to bring awareness to my readers and I believe that beauty starts from the inside out.

As a child, I watched my father abuse my mother, as a teen I was abused physically by a high school boyfriend and verbally as an adult. Today, I realize that I am beautiful and love is not abusive!

I wrote a poem from the heart in the late 90’s as a dedication to my younger self and any woman who has experienced domestic violence.

This is not just a poem from what I have seen, heard or experienced, it is a poem for anyone who has been affected by domestic violence or someone who is in denial. I pray and hope that this helps someone to seek shelter and help. 

Love to the Limit

As your fist hits my face

Your imprints are left upon my cheek

As I scream in an outrage

You laugh to keep from feeling guilt

I LOVE YOU! I scream

You laugh once again and reply with a kick

I’m sorry, I’m sorry

Falling to my knees

Begging and pleading

But you say nothing

And I think why does this have to be me

Your brain filled with insanity

I don’t know what’s next

You punch me in the stomach

And continue with vital threats

As I lie on the floor pain bruised and in pain

No movement from my body

Just my blood and your shame

I try to weep for help

But there’s no one near

I start to grasp for breath

But you choose not to hear

You turn your back and walk away

Leaving me to be

I knew this was the end

How could you do this to me?

I did nothing but love you

And what did you return to me

An act of hatred

Why was that so hard for me to see?

Domestic violence is a disease and if you suffer from it, seek help and call the hotline 1.800.799.7233. Let’s make a difference and start by answering the following questions: How can we help women who suffer from domestic violence? How can we help our young girls avoid being a victim? How will you get involved? Start by commenting below and being a part of the conversation on Twitter and Facebook using the hashtag #WomensLives. Have a day filled with strength!

 

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The 6 Secrets of Inner Beauty

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Join me for a week of FREE uplifting conversations with 11 powerful women across North America in the comfort of your own home! Register for the Women’s Transformation and Vitality Summit starting December 1st – 5th.

Renew your mind body and spirit before the holiday and discover a new you! I would love for you to join me as I speak about, “The 6 Secrets of Inner Beauty!” on December 1st. You can register for this FREE event with the following link: http://bit.ly/WTVSummit.

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